Most of us treat love like an external force. It's something that happens to us, strikes us like an arrow or overcomes us like a storm. There is a problem with thinking of love this way, and that is that it can slant our focus outward. It overlooks our own sense of power and leaves us to believe that we are victims of our romantic fate.
Over the years, I have heard thousands of reasons offered for why people are either single or pulling out of a relationship.