Many people fear relationship failure. Real love makes us feel vulnerable and we tend to have fear of the unknown. Putting trust in someone can make us feel exposed. Some people even believe that the more they care about someone, the more at risk they are for being hurt.
Recently, I met with Claire, a bright 28 year-old teacher who reflected "The thought of forever terrifies me, I just can't see myself with Jake forever but I'm madly in love with him."