Cruel or cutting remarks from strangers can be hurtful, but 99 percent of the time, we are hurt by someone we know, and these injuries are deeper and more painful, because a person who should be the source of love suddenly betrays that love -- intentionally or otherwise. It's hard to admit, but wherever a relationship exists, the possibility of someone getting wounded exists. The most common reason we get hurt by another person is: Our ideas of hurt don't match. Because we all learned as small children to accept our family life as normal, we forget that every other family has their own "normal," and the differences between those normals can be significant. For instance, one family sees shouting as "friendly advice," which is easily accepted or ignored; in another, yelling can be a sign of open hostility.
You expect to be respected for your opinions, even if the other person disagrees with them.