As trumpeted in I Do. I Did. Now What? Life After the Wedding Dress, by Jenny Lee, "There are always plenty of friends to argue the finer points of engagement rings, prenuptial diets, French bustles, and tiara vs. headpiece." But, the author warns, "Once the band stops playing and the guests go home, you are on your own." It seems in marriage, like many things in life, the learning is in the doing.
Passionate Marriage author, David Schnarch agrees. "Nobody's ready for marriage," he writes. "Marriage makes you ready for marriage." He says successful marriages involve growing and an intimacy-based approach emphasizing "tone" and "depth of connection."