You tear up when you see commercials for abused and neglected animals. You cry with a friend who shared her feelings about a recent breakup. You even feel "touched" when you meet a stranger who hints at being lonely. You are seemingly compassionate and moved when it relates to those outside your inner circle.
But then you get near those closest and things change. You are cold and intolerant. You listen to your partner or your children as if you were a robot. You find that you are withholding, judgmental and cut off. Frankly, you feel the opposite of compassionate: disconnected and bothered.