In The Ecstasy of Surrender I emphasize that bonding with a partner is a natural part of getting to know someone and of falling in love. But getting overly attached goes beyond healthy bonding and is disempowering. When you truly love someone you're not interested in possessing the person or keeping him or her in your clutches because you're afraid of losing the relationship. Instead, you respect your partner's autonomy and spirit. You're not too entangled, by standing together side by side. True intimacy is always a balance between bonding and letting go so the relationship can breathe.
How to interpret this quiz: 6-8 yeses indicate that you might be extremely overly attached. 3-5 yeses indicate that you might be moderately overly attached. 1-3 yeses indicate that you may have a tendency to overly attach. A score of zero indicates that you have healthy bonding with your partner.