Shame is rough on us. It punishes us for our mistakes and drains the joy out of our triumphs, leaving us bereft with its conclusion that we're not good enough and never will be. It can reach the point where we're not even clear about the strengths we possess. Eventually, that false voice that says You're not good enough can become a self-fulfilling prophesy that thwarts you in making your dreams come true.
How do we end up this way? The criticisms and judgments of parents, siblings, teachers, coaches, bosses, and other authority figures programmed shame reactions into our brain, but don't worry. All that programming can be reprogrammed.