We're all trying to become better people. (It least in theory. And when I say "better" I am not implying there's anything flawed, or messed up, or wrong with you as you are now. The potential of who each of us is -- the tiny seed of love and compassion and possibility that dwells within us all -- already is perfection.)
But life has this interesting transformational principle that evokes our hard edges -- our places of discomfort and resistance; impatience and places we get stuck -- to try to work through these areas to make us better.