Our society has a tendency to quantify pain. As a result, we end up in these futile discussions about how my pain is worse than your pain, or why what happened to you is far worse than what happened to me. As a survivor of rape, I am all too familiar that the "default position" for many victims of rape is to say to yourself, "It wasn't that bad. I can get through it on my own." When it comes right down to it, this is just the brain's way of coping with a violent, traumatic act of violation. Can't we all simply agree that no one's pain is worse than anyone else's. Rape is just that -- It's rape, and it's unconscionable.
The Twitter hashtag campaign #BeenRapedNeverReported has become a global phenomenon. It's allowing people to come forward and say, "This happened to me, too." For many people, it's their first tentative act of disclosing the trauma they survived.