1. Walk Away Decide that you don’t care if your spouse sets your skirt on fire, you will turn around and walk away. Start equating loving your children with controlling your impulses. Recognize that when you don't walk away, you are essentially attacking your kids, putting your need to explode ahead of their well-being and peace of mind.
2. Write It Down After you walk away, write down everything you're thinking and feeling, so you can give it to your partner later. Then you’ll discuss when the kids aren't around.