"My boyfriend and I moved in together a few months ago. We've been together for two years and thought we were ready. We get along great in every way, but there's one small problem that's developed: I can't get him to help out around the apartment and do chores. He isn't lazy, but he just doesn't move a finger to help. I get on his case and find myself yelling at him, calling him a slob. I've even withheld sex. The dynamic seems to have changed and our relationship is suffering. This leads to major fights and is ruining our relationship. What should I do?"
This question is one I am asked frequently. Whether it's newly-married couples, those moving in together for the first time, or couples who have co-habitated for years, the issue is timeless and leads to many conflicts, tense nights, withheld sex and, of course, a messy house.