Many of us, on reading the recent news about Ray Rice, Greg Hardy, and Ray McDonald, have thought, "How could anyone do that? What was he thinking?" It turns out the truth about what goes through an abusive man's head is not what you'd expect. Prepare to be surprised.
To be sure, many men who hit or emotionally abuse their partners were themselves abused as kids, but many men have also risen above their brutal childhoods and broken that cycle. Being abused doesn't automatically make you an abuser.